The true meaning of life lies in facing life with a smile.
It should be our highest ideal to make ourselves happy, to make others happy and to make all mankind live a happy life.
Be Happy Alone?How?
People’s understanding of happiness varies, but it boils down to the following: subjective feelings, wealth and success, self-actualization, timely happiness and carefreeness.
In terms of the specific forms of pleasure and the types of needs, there is no fixed pattern of pleasure, and everyone has his or her own pleasure.
Pleasure can be divided into bored pleasure, helpless pleasure, carefree pleasure, desireless pleasure, ignorant pleasure, selfless pleasure and selfless pleasure, or as the ancients summed it up, contentment, self-satisfaction and helping others.
Physiological pleasure is the most basic pleasure. Such things as eating, drinking, sleeping, pulling, sex, etc., and the feeling of need for temperature, air, humidity, sunlight, and other climatic conditions, etc., all fall into this category. The need for physiological pleasures manifests itself in rigidity, with a clear upper and lower limit.
Psychological pleasure is the pleasure of satisfying psychological and spiritual needs, such as the need for various arts, as well as the appreciation of beauty, ostentatious consumption, games and entertainment, leisure and vacation, and culture and sports, all of which fall into this category. Its distinctive feature is greater elasticity, and the upper and lower limits are not obvious.
Emotional pleasure refers to the pleasures of various emotional needs, including love, affection, friendship, kindness and sympathy, and kindness mainly refers to feelings of touch, gratitude and appreciation. Such pleasures are indispensable, but are satisfied by how much, often varying from person to person, and are complex.
The joy of truth mainly refers to the joy arising from the pursuit of interests, ideals, beliefs and other truths in the heart. Such as academic research, religious beliefs, inventions, etc., all belong to this category. The joy of truth is more stable and firm, and can easily reach the state of forgetfulness, and is often not understood by outsiders. Ethical happiness mainly includes morality, altruism, charity, environmental protection and other happiness related to social and natural ethics. This kind of happiness has the highest state and greater social value.
In terms of the values of happiness, there are communist fast optimism, religious fast optimism, perfectionist fast optimism, idealist fast optimism, realist fast optimism, busyness fast optimism, gold-worshipping fast optimism, successful fast optimism, nostalgic fast optimism, pretend fast optimism and nihilist fast optimism.
Confucius’s fast optimism, on the other hand, is to get the world’s talents and educate them. He speaks of happiness in the opening chapter of his Analects, and can be called China’s first happy man. He said, “To learn and learn from others is not only happy, but also to have friends from afar is not also happy, and people do not know but not indignant is not also a gentleman, all these are about happiness. He also praised Yan Hui’s happiness. He said, a tangsheng, a drink, in the humble lane, people can not bear its worries, back also does not change its happiness. He believed that learning Yan Hui has the noble happiness, not for poverty.
Obviously, there is no fixed definition of happiness, and different people will have different understandings of it.
So where exactly does happiness come from?how be happy alone
Harmony between people comes from a balance. For example, balance between husband and wife; balance between relatives; balance between colleagues. If there is a balanced and harmonious relationship, you are happy, if not, you are unhappy.
Harmony between man and nature is also important. If you have harmony within yourself and harmony between people, but not harmony with nature, you are just as unhappy. To make a simple analogy, if we cut down all the trees in our city, everyone would scold the mayor to death. Why scold? Because people are not happy. Cut down the trees and you must not be happy because the natural environment has been destroyed. Now why many people are unhappy is because the natural environment is getting worse. Why we want to travel is because we want to enjoy the natural environment. Why do we like to eat at the farmhouse, also because we want to enjoy the natural environment.
Harmony is the essence of happiness and love is the source of happiness.